The Struggle is Real: How to Go From Business Beginner to Total Boss

Trying something new can be scary.

Like taking the training wheels off your kid’s bike and hoping they don’t scrape their knee too badly. I’m just feeling this now as Madeline is finally riding a bike and of course I don’t want to see her bite it and then come in crying.

Or leaving your comfortable salaried job to follow your passions and turn your dreams into a profitable reality without having a clue what you’re doing...

Whew, yep, scary stuff.

Those first years of starting and running a business can be hella stressful because really what you’re doing is conquering the unknown. 

When you’re starting out -- you’re navigating a sea full of “what ifs” and “how do I do’s”, all the while being tossed around by waves big and small.

It’s choppy waters with brief windows of translucent turquoise waters that offer you a glimpse into the incredible future you’re creating.

Because at sea (and in the beginning stages of business)...there might be chaos —  but there are also beautiful sunsets, pina coladas and the calm that comes with having a compass guiding you to your ultimate destination…

When I first started out I had no idea what I was doing. I could have chosen to freeze and claim the “I don’t know how to do it” card. But I decided that wasn’t an option. Instead I chose to be resourceful. I chose to jump. I chose to take the training wheels off and if I did fall and get an Owie, to clean it up, put a band-aid on it and keep on keeping on.  

Why? Because I believe anything is possible.

What I learned is you need to BELIEVE that you can do it. BELIEVE that you can make money. BELIEVE that you are ALREADY a success. BELIEVE in yourself.

You need to trust in all of this....because you’re it. You’re the boss, HR, operations, marketing and you alone are in charge of workplace happiness.

You are casual Friday, every day.

That trust you have in yourself will hopefully feel natural than not, because you have decided to do what you love.

But those first few years are definitely a learning experience.

The top three lessons I learned in my first two years as an entrepreneur are:

“Entrepreneurship is living a few years of your life like most people won't, so that you can spend the rest of your life like most people can't.” - Anonymous

  1. Don’t wait for life to happen to you. Take action even if you don’t know how.
  2. Plan, do, review and then redo if what you tried didn’t go as you’d hoped.
  3. Take a risk (unless sitting in front of the tube each night watching crappy reality shows is how you want to spend the rest of your life.)

Learning these lessons was mandatory for my success. No, it wasn’t easy. Yes, some days I was too caught up to even take a shower or eat a meal.  Barbecue potato chips because a primary food group #notasuperproudmoment. But definitely, it was worth it.

As an entrepreneur starting out in business, you have to be able to adapt.

Not everything you try is going to work, so you have to be able to turn on a dime and try something new. You’ll get it.

Another challenge in those early years is making those dollah bills.

Success takes TIME.

I didn’t make money right away. But guess what? I worked hard, I persevered and now I make more money a month just in my doTERRA business alone than I did annually as an attorney!

And guess what, you can make that kind of money too. If you put your mind and your heart to it, you will.

Some tips?

      1. Don’t burn out!

When you start a business (and even once your business is fully established), it’s soooo easy to put everything….all of your time and energy, into it NON-STOP.

There’s no 8-hour workday. There’s no one forcing you to take lunch. It’s so easy to lose work-life balance which you need now more than ever.

Take some time for you. You can’t be a success if you’re tired and overwhelmed. Go for a walk! Spend time with your family. Turn your phone off at 7 pm. Get dem nails done!

      2. Make some biz besties

Being an entrepreneur can be lonely. Some days, you’re so focused on your computer, that you realize you haven’t spoken a single word aloud all day.

Your friends with “real” jobs may not understand your challenges and you may feel like you’re the only one out there with the entrepreneur woes.

Get out there and start networking! Networking will help build connections within your industry and we all have so much to learn from each other. You are not alone.

      3. Shorten your learning curve

Having a mentor is essential. I have one and I owe a ton of my success to her. My coach keeps me on track and doesn’t allow me to make excuses.

If I didn’t have someone who saw in me what I can’t always see in myself, I wouldn’t be where I am today.

You don’t need to reinvent the wheel. Look within your industry and look at who’s successful...what are they doing that works? What can you learn from them?

You will not be in startup mode forever. Your dreams will come true...hell...they already are!  

The seas will calm and soon enough you’ll be sipping back those pina coladas on a tropical island, looking back at these years where you busted your butt following your dream.

Keep dreaming chica, your dream destination is within reach.



Okay, your turn. What’s been your biggest struggle in the beginner years of business? Let me know in the comments!

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