Every now and again I like to take myself out. Yep, you heard me, a good old fashioned solo date night.
Sound weird? Hardly. And if you have never tried it or think it's kinda dumb to go out alone, think again. I love alone time. I know some would rather wind up at a bar or text till the wee hours of the morning with random people than spend time alone, but not me. I’m married, two kids, on the phone with clients and business partners all day long.
I need the alone time. So, there are some major perks to creating a date night for just dear ol' you. First and foremost, you don't have to cater to anyone else's wants or needs. It’s all about YOU. Although compromise is the basis of any relationship, sometimes it is okay to say, “I don't want to compromise. I just want to do what I want and give myself what I need for a single night (or maybe even an overnight!). I have friends who never take time for themselves because when they do, their spouse or
their friends look at them like there is something wrong with them. Like the
only thing they are supposed to do all day long is serve. Give me a break.
I want to connect not be enmeshed. Secondly, when you take time to yourself, you become energized so you can go back into the fields and deal with your life. You know what they say when you’re ready to jet, “put your oxygen mask on first before you assist the person next to you.”
Taking time out for yourself is your oxygen mask. When I go out by myself, I get to pick the restaurants my husband always complains about. When I am alone, I can watch a movie he’d fall asleep in (and maybe snore). When I'm on my own, I can peruse the make-up at Sephora or indulge in browsing for cookware at Sur La Table without anyone giving me that hurry-up-this-is-so-boring look on his face. Doing what you want and taking care of yourself friggin’ ROCKS. If your partner gives you crap about taking some “time off,” tell him to go what a football game or take some time with the guys tonight. Craving out time for you isn't overrated. It’s a necessity.
Alone time feeds our souls and nourishes our hearts. Don’t wait for someone to meet your needs, schedule yourself a solo date night. You can always make time for a little ‘ol “me time.” Whether it’s an easy mid-day lunch, a shopping spree, a massage, mani-medi or an evening out on your own. I have just give several reasons why it's okay to have a solo date night. If you took yourself on a solo date night what would you do? Or are you already doing this already? I would love to hear from you, please leave your comments in the box below. And if you like this post, please share it on Facebook, Pin it or Tweet it! XO, Hayley